This Goddess is in full blown Valkyrie Warrior mode.
I have a sister-friend who is being taken advantage of by a so called mate and it's really starting...no- it really IS- pissing me off in the worst sort of way.
I'm not sure I can even write about it properly I'm so fucking furious about the entire situation.
I'm not going to put in names or details, but let's just say that if you are a mate- you do NOT use them as cover for cheating and being a skanky whore. If you don't want to be with someone- you leave them and THEN find someone else- you do not run around for months using people as "cover stories" for your trashy ass bed hopping ways.
I think what's hurting me the most and making me almost- if not MORE- furious is the fact that my friend is acting like it's okay to be used that way. She smiles and acts like she's having a great time and then writes crap like "Had a fab time today- have to do it again soon!!" on her social media site.
Friends/mates/ buddies/pals/sisters do NOT treat each other with that kind of disrespectful disregard. You don't USE people who think they are your friends and keep trying to be ACTUAL friends. You do NOT take advantage and make them feel like second class citizens or worse- ignore them. Until the next time you need cover for an outing.
My friend is one of the loveliest, sweetest, most caring people I have ever known- generous to a fault- and more forgiving than she should ever be. She gives everyone the benefit of the doubt and tries to find the good in all people.
I'm more jaded. I've been stabbed in the back by my "mates" who , to the LETTER- treated me with the same disrespect and disregard as hers is doing now. If the mate is doing that to the person they are supposed to be in love with- don't you think its possible that at some time in the future she might decide that she has changed her mind and make a move on YOUR man with no qualms whatsoever? A cheater is a cheater- period. I don't trust a cheater....Never will. Just like the proverbial leopard, they don't change their spots.
I haven't been in a knock down drag out cat fight in so long I cant even remember, but I swear to fucking god- I'm read to lock, load, snatch some hair and beat some skank ass right now.
NOBODY treats MY Sister-Friend like that and gets by with it. Not On MY WATCH!!
Watch your back girlie... I know exactly who you are and I know some voodoo shit that will straighten your hair in all the wrong kinda ways.
Mountain Witch... Goddess... Hell On Heels BITCH- Take your pick. I've got my eyes on you and you REALLY don't want to hurt my sister anymore than you already have.
It wouldn't be good for your soul.
You have been warned.
Saturday 28 February 2015
Saturday 7 February 2015
Whinging......and asking Forgiveness.
Well, today I'm going to be a bit of a crybaby and have a huge massive whinge.....and hope I don't upset anyone.- Mainly my bezzie.
Yesterday was an absolutely horrendous day for me. I came into the office with the remnants of the 4 day migraine still drilling holes in my head. So I get in, make myself a coffee and take more tablets for it.
As the morning wears on, more and more people come in and as they do, my irritation grows and grows and grows.
We have a copier that is noisy as hell sitting almost right beside my desk. The stupid repairman- last time he was in two weeks ago- left not only his screwdriver lying in the desk beside the copier- but TWO SCREWS too!....Now I don't know about y'all- but where I come from, extra parts being left over when you put something back together is NOT a good thing. And ever since then, the copier has sounded like a damn Mina bird every time each and every single sheet of paper has come thru it. Drives us to distraction. Like a faucet dripping constantly. This has to be some form of cruel and inhuman punishment and against the law, right?
Next on the list is the girl that sits behind me. I think she's from Poland or Romania or somewhere and let me tell you- she beats the HELL out of her keyboard on her computer. OMG- seriously, She hits those keys like she is trying to kill Freddy Kruger with a shovel. Every single day I have to sit there and force myself to not turn around and ask her is she mad at it or ask her what in the world did it do to her to deserve that kind of treatment?!!!
Now, also- speaking of LOUD, I have a loud talker who sits beside me. I don't know if it's because he has hearing problems himself or if he just wants/likes the attention but this guy talks at the decibel level of a chainsaw running at full speed. It drives me to insanity. And the worst part is he repeats himself at least 4 times EVERY SINGLE CONVERSATION he has on the phone. This is an open office plan too- so asking to be moved to another desk wont solve the problem. Neither will asking him to take it down a notch or two because he does- for about 2 minutes and then it's back to full volume again. And both he AND the office mate on the other side of my desk are space infringers. We each have the same size desks. But for some unknown reasons, they have to inch their papers/phones/ calculators onto MY desk space and get in my way of doing MY work. And they both also tend to have little mini meetings with their "people" and then their people drop THEIR stuff on my desk or worse- lean or sit in the corner of it. OMG- I cant stress how much THAT infuriates me!!! And yes- I have told them they need to move their asses when they do that. Disgusting.
And speaking of disgusting, The loud talker has a habit of making himself a cup o soup at 10:15 on the dot. I don't know what kind of soup it is but it makes me want to heave. I'm talking garbage bin bag after 2 weeks kind of smell. Nuff said about that.
We also have the giggling school-girls. Two of them sit over in the corner and chat back and forth and then howl in laughter...or have long drawn out giggle fests. I don't have a THING against having a bit of a chat and a giggle and making light - it makes the day go so much faster, but quietly.....other people quite possibly have work that needs to get done and find that sort of thing REALLY distracting!!
And then I went to do my printing- and even tho I went downstairs and got printer paper and filled the printers up when I first got there in the morning- the copier was empty. |And as I was there there was two people walking up opening up the paper drawers to steal paper from it for scratch paper. I let them all have an earful. Lazy asses cant be bothered to go across the hall to get a notepad for their scratch paper- no they have to come steal copier paper out of the copier when we are low on it in the supply room anyway. There is NO excuse for it- at all.
Then just as I thought my day couldn't get any worse, I was texting with my bezzie and asked her was we still on for our outing on my birthday? I said if she couldn't it was okay, I just needed to know in case I needed to make alternate plans.....and I really actually thought that was the case.
But I was kidding myself.
We went to the fashion show together a few months ago- the only real girl-time we have been able to spend together since she moved away. We had to cancel Thanksgiving dinner together because I had just come out of a week long stay in the hospital for an intestinal problem and I was on doctors orders to stay in and stay pretty much in bed to recuperate. That about killed me- not being able to do our Dinner because we had both planned for MONTHS. Well, we then decided to spend a girly day together on My Birthday end of this month., do some shopping, maybe have our nails done or hair- a lovely lunch somewhere nice- just me and my Bezzie.
And then she texted and said she couldn't get the day off from work.
I sat there at my desk and tears welled up in my eyes. I couldn't believe how disappointed I was. I tried to shake it off as just one of those things...but after a half hour of trying to hold it back- I went to the ladies and cried.
And then I cried some more. And then I cried again when I got home.
I know things happen to change plans....Of ALL people I certainly know that. But apparently, I was looking forward to it much more than I thought I was. I'm sorry- I know she will read this and I know she will prob feel bad and I don't want her to feel bad about it because it certainly isn't her fault.
On the other hand, I do want her to know that she really is my Bezzie and she always will be. I love spending time with her and the time we do get to spend together is even more precious to me now since we live so far apart. So forgive me, Li......I had to get it out of my system.
But now I have to buck up and get back to it. It's the weekend- and I don't have think about the crap at the office.
And there certainly will be other Goddess Days for me and my Bezzie.
Patience is a Virtue....so I've heard.
Yesterday was an absolutely horrendous day for me. I came into the office with the remnants of the 4 day migraine still drilling holes in my head. So I get in, make myself a coffee and take more tablets for it.
As the morning wears on, more and more people come in and as they do, my irritation grows and grows and grows.
We have a copier that is noisy as hell sitting almost right beside my desk. The stupid repairman- last time he was in two weeks ago- left not only his screwdriver lying in the desk beside the copier- but TWO SCREWS too!....Now I don't know about y'all- but where I come from, extra parts being left over when you put something back together is NOT a good thing. And ever since then, the copier has sounded like a damn Mina bird every time each and every single sheet of paper has come thru it. Drives us to distraction. Like a faucet dripping constantly. This has to be some form of cruel and inhuman punishment and against the law, right?
Next on the list is the girl that sits behind me. I think she's from Poland or Romania or somewhere and let me tell you- she beats the HELL out of her keyboard on her computer. OMG- seriously, She hits those keys like she is trying to kill Freddy Kruger with a shovel. Every single day I have to sit there and force myself to not turn around and ask her is she mad at it or ask her what in the world did it do to her to deserve that kind of treatment?!!!
Now, also- speaking of LOUD, I have a loud talker who sits beside me. I don't know if it's because he has hearing problems himself or if he just wants/likes the attention but this guy talks at the decibel level of a chainsaw running at full speed. It drives me to insanity. And the worst part is he repeats himself at least 4 times EVERY SINGLE CONVERSATION he has on the phone. This is an open office plan too- so asking to be moved to another desk wont solve the problem. Neither will asking him to take it down a notch or two because he does- for about 2 minutes and then it's back to full volume again. And both he AND the office mate on the other side of my desk are space infringers. We each have the same size desks. But for some unknown reasons, they have to inch their papers/phones/ calculators onto MY desk space and get in my way of doing MY work. And they both also tend to have little mini meetings with their "people" and then their people drop THEIR stuff on my desk or worse- lean or sit in the corner of it. OMG- I cant stress how much THAT infuriates me!!! And yes- I have told them they need to move their asses when they do that. Disgusting.
And speaking of disgusting, The loud talker has a habit of making himself a cup o soup at 10:15 on the dot. I don't know what kind of soup it is but it makes me want to heave. I'm talking garbage bin bag after 2 weeks kind of smell. Nuff said about that.
We also have the giggling school-girls. Two of them sit over in the corner and chat back and forth and then howl in laughter...or have long drawn out giggle fests. I don't have a THING against having a bit of a chat and a giggle and making light - it makes the day go so much faster, but quietly.....other people quite possibly have work that needs to get done and find that sort of thing REALLY distracting!!
And then I went to do my printing- and even tho I went downstairs and got printer paper and filled the printers up when I first got there in the morning- the copier was empty. |And as I was there there was two people walking up opening up the paper drawers to steal paper from it for scratch paper. I let them all have an earful. Lazy asses cant be bothered to go across the hall to get a notepad for their scratch paper- no they have to come steal copier paper out of the copier when we are low on it in the supply room anyway. There is NO excuse for it- at all.
Then just as I thought my day couldn't get any worse, I was texting with my bezzie and asked her was we still on for our outing on my birthday? I said if she couldn't it was okay, I just needed to know in case I needed to make alternate plans.....and I really actually thought that was the case.
But I was kidding myself.
We went to the fashion show together a few months ago- the only real girl-time we have been able to spend together since she moved away. We had to cancel Thanksgiving dinner together because I had just come out of a week long stay in the hospital for an intestinal problem and I was on doctors orders to stay in and stay pretty much in bed to recuperate. That about killed me- not being able to do our Dinner because we had both planned for MONTHS. Well, we then decided to spend a girly day together on My Birthday end of this month., do some shopping, maybe have our nails done or hair- a lovely lunch somewhere nice- just me and my Bezzie.
And then she texted and said she couldn't get the day off from work.
I sat there at my desk and tears welled up in my eyes. I couldn't believe how disappointed I was. I tried to shake it off as just one of those things...but after a half hour of trying to hold it back- I went to the ladies and cried.
And then I cried some more. And then I cried again when I got home.
I know things happen to change plans....Of ALL people I certainly know that. But apparently, I was looking forward to it much more than I thought I was. I'm sorry- I know she will read this and I know she will prob feel bad and I don't want her to feel bad about it because it certainly isn't her fault.
On the other hand, I do want her to know that she really is my Bezzie and she always will be. I love spending time with her and the time we do get to spend together is even more precious to me now since we live so far apart. So forgive me, Li......I had to get it out of my system.
But now I have to buck up and get back to it. It's the weekend- and I don't have think about the crap at the office.
And there certainly will be other Goddess Days for me and my Bezzie.
Patience is a Virtue....so I've heard.
Sunday 1 February 2015
On Plural Marriages and Goddessness
I've been watching My 4 Wives this evening as is my Sunday Evening Ritual. I LOVE that show. It truly fascinates me.
I'm not one of the women who could embrace that lifestyle- but there are parts of it that certainly sound appealing. The sister-wives, for example. I mean imagine having your sister wives to share the household duties with.....the cooking, the cleaning, the responsibilities of the kids......Having shoulders to lean on who understand what you are going thru from a woman point of view. I mean yes- that's what a husband should do- but can any man TRULY understand that you have PMS and you just cant face anything? No- he really cant.
On the other hand, if you don't like the sister wives it could be the worst manner of hell too. Never being able to trust your kids will be taken care of when they are with one of the other mothers.....
among other things.
I'm much to much of a Queen Bee to allow my man to be with another woman with my blessing. If my husband came in and seriously wanted to discuss having a plural marriage- I would pack my bags and walk out. I don't DO sharing. Certainly not in THAT area of my life. I believe in One Man, One Woman, One Marriage. I think spouses should put each other above all others- in all cases. I believe in spending your nights together- I believe in going out together(occasionally having a girls or guys night out) but under NO circumstances should either be out and about with someone of the opposite sex without the other unless the other is a blood relative. It's just what I believe.
3M doesn't believe in the no exceptions part of it- and I have to concede that there are a VERY FEW circumstances where it would be not objected to- but for the most part- it just isn't negotiable for me.
What's the wording in the wedding vows?....forsaking all others? I truly believe that with all my heart and soul.
And I believe I deserve it and refuse to accept anything less. Same goes for my husband. I don't do anything I wouldn't want him doing.
Sometimes you gotta fight for what you believe in.
I'm not one of the women who could embrace that lifestyle- but there are parts of it that certainly sound appealing. The sister-wives, for example. I mean imagine having your sister wives to share the household duties with.....the cooking, the cleaning, the responsibilities of the kids......Having shoulders to lean on who understand what you are going thru from a woman point of view. I mean yes- that's what a husband should do- but can any man TRULY understand that you have PMS and you just cant face anything? No- he really cant.
On the other hand, if you don't like the sister wives it could be the worst manner of hell too. Never being able to trust your kids will be taken care of when they are with one of the other mothers.....
among other things.
I'm much to much of a Queen Bee to allow my man to be with another woman with my blessing. If my husband came in and seriously wanted to discuss having a plural marriage- I would pack my bags and walk out. I don't DO sharing. Certainly not in THAT area of my life. I believe in One Man, One Woman, One Marriage. I think spouses should put each other above all others- in all cases. I believe in spending your nights together- I believe in going out together(occasionally having a girls or guys night out) but under NO circumstances should either be out and about with someone of the opposite sex without the other unless the other is a blood relative. It's just what I believe.
3M doesn't believe in the no exceptions part of it- and I have to concede that there are a VERY FEW circumstances where it would be not objected to- but for the most part- it just isn't negotiable for me.
What's the wording in the wedding vows?....forsaking all others? I truly believe that with all my heart and soul.
And I believe I deserve it and refuse to accept anything less. Same goes for my husband. I don't do anything I wouldn't want him doing.
Sometimes you gotta fight for what you believe in.
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