Who's Fooling Who?

Well, today has certainly been an interesting day in the life of this Goddess on Earth.

I'm going to get a bit personal and hope that the beautiful ladies in question don't take it the wrong way.
First of all- I got a text this morning from a young Goddette relative begging for my help. She wanted to know the name of her father. Her mother refuses to give her the information and Goddette is beside herself. She had fallen in love and been asked to marry the man of her dreams- only he has the same last name as she does. She found paternity testing papers a few years ago and the results  said that the man she though was her biological father was indeed not. And so began the questions- and her mother's refusal to give a satisfactory answer.
Now- I could see Fellow Goddess not wanting to discuss details under certain circumstances- such as rape or incest or such- but even then, I still think Goddette(as would we all) deserves to know who her parents are if there is ANY way possible. But those rules do NOT apply in this case.  On and off for the past few years Goddette will put out a plea to her relatives begging for any information.
Today, I told her to ask a couple of people- beginning with the person she thought was her biological father. It turns out she already tried and he also refuses to even speak with her about it- or anything else. So I told her to try the second person- and in the meantime I will contact her Goddess-Mother and speak with her and try to convince her to tell Goddette the truth. It WILL eventually come out and as I said- I think she has a right to know. There are medical issues she needs answered plus she needs the information before she can give the mere mortal of her dreams an answer as to whether she can marry him. Goddette is close to 30 years old. Enough is enough. I am tired of hearing the child beg for information she should have been given- be it Gladly Given or Grudgingly Given.
My dilemma is the Goddess Mother is someone who is very near and dear to my heart- and I do not want this to come between us- and if I give Goddette the information she seeks, there will definitely be hard feelings- possibly irreparable damage to both mine and Goddess-Mother's AND to Goddette and Goddess-Mother.
On the one hand I feel I should let Goddess-Mother handle it as she sees fit- it is HER Child and her story to tell, after all.
On the other hand, I was in a situation where I found something and asked questions and was given answers- but I feel like it wasn't actually the whole truth- if at all. So I can feel for Goddette wanting answers she may never get about something that she should already know.

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Now for the second quandary.
One of my fellow Goddesses is moving house. she's recently received a golden opportunity for her career and she has taken it. She was stagnating at her former place of employment- I could see her withering before my eyes. She basically was running the company without having the benefits of
 the salary or the title. She was always running herself ragged putting out fires that upper management created and it was sucking the life and happiness out of her.
Now her new career path has put her in a place she loves- in a position she loves- but it's a long and dangerous daily commute. She's only been at it a few weeks but I can hear the smile in her voice and the lilt of happiness coming back. So, she has been looking at homes in the area- I think maybe it started out as just a lark, but she has actually found a place and has the keys and is moving house this weekend.
So what's the problem with that, you ask. Absolutely nothing. Except she was in a relationship. Living in. She is in bits this morning upset and she says they are working on the relationship and that they aren't splitting up- they are just living separately so she can get her head wrapped around everything and figure out what she needs in her life. She was crying this morning as she was packing to move- and still insisting that she and S/O arent splitting up.
I'm sorry my Sister-Godess is upset, but I think she is lying to herself- or trying to convince herself.
You can't move out of a home with your significant other unless you are unhappy and see it going nowhere.  Moving out is a last resort- and Sister-Goddess has tried everything else. Talks, couples counseling, arguments, pleading, everything and anything she has heard of to try and reverse this path they have been going down - in the wrong direction.
I know she cares for her Mere Mortal.... otherwise she wouldn't have tried as desperately as she did to get things back on the right path... but sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away. If you are very very lucky, you can remain friends, but I honestly dont think it will happen in this case. I think they will try for a couple of months, but I think it's too broken and just seeing each other will remind them of everything that went wrong  and make it impossible to  maintain for long. I dont think her MM is right for her. He's a nice enough guy, but she needs someone who is strong enough to walk BY her, not in front of her taking credit for her hard work- and not behind her letting her take the burdens all on her shoulders while he stands back and waits.
In all honesty, I think he takes her for granted- and has used her to an extent- not intentionally, maybe.. but I think he needed someone strong to save  his company and with his background- I honestly think he wanted the strong mother figure he always wanted but never had with his own mother.
And I dont think it was one bit fair to Sister-Goddess to do so.
I know this is the right move for Sister-Goddess. I know she will blossom in the next year and spread her wings and FLY.  I just want her to know I am here if she needs someone to talk to- or just do something with. I'm Here For You.